1.SHEPHERDING: Before you shepherd others,
continually abide in the power of the Chief Shepherd yourself. Let your teaching be the
overflow of the love, joy, peace and patience that you supernaturally gain when
you rest in His presence. Among other things, this will prevent you from making
the bible study about your own personal issues. There is a time when every
leader needs support, but it shouldn’t be every meeting. A shepherd puts the
flock’s needs above his or her own (See John 15, Phil 2:1-4).
2.GRACE: Before preaching the gospel to others,
preach it to yourself. Remember you were once lost, blind, broken and dead in
your sin. Let your gratitude for God’s grace well up in you and let that
reminder of your own lostness shape the way you love lost people. Jesus
attracted sinners not only because of his teaching but also because of his
compassion. In the end it’s simple: grace attracts, pride attacks (Matt 9:9-13,
Titus 3:3-8).
3.PURPOSE:
Why are you doing
this? What is the end goal? Is the purpose to convey how much you know or is it
to help others know Jesus? Is your purpose simply to convey information (which
is hugely important!) or is it to allow that information lead to
transformation? If the end goal is transformation, then it is crucially
important to ask questions and make applications to people’s daily lives.
Sometimes sheep need to go slow and sometimes sheep need you to connect the
dots for them (See 1 Corinthians 1:18-25).
4.LISTEN:
Pause. Ask.
Listen. The awkward silence is ok. Listening not only forces your group to
engage with the Scriptures and wrestle with its truths, it also communicates
that you value your group as people. While it is crucially important to prevent
the bible study from devolving into a superficial support group, the leader
should be known as a good teacher and a good listener. As a general rule of
thumb, the leader should not be doing more than two thirds of the talking (See
Matthew 5:37, James 1:19-25).
5. AVOID
MINUTIA: Keep
the main thing, the main thing. The tragic temptation of any small group is for
the conversation to go negative - quick. You can sense it when you leave a
negative conversation. Instead of the dialogue giving you joy; it robbed you of
it. By God’s grace, try to keep your focus on His glory, His grace, His cross,
His Word, His Spirit, His commands. Try to avoid gossip, religious snobbery,
theological rabbit trails, scapegoating the culture and divisive political
issues. Don’t assume your flock has the same views on some of these secondary
issues as you. A tragedy would be someone being turned off to Jesus because we
elevated minutia above the message (See 2 Timothy 2:22-26).
6.COLLISION:
Remember your
flock is struggling with sin, doubt, worldliness, apathy and pain. They need
the Word of God. Don’t shy away from it. Don’t be ashamed of it. Please get
them into the Bible! Workbooks, videos, bestselling books are all well and good
– but they are not the powerful, penetrating, inerrant Word of God. As you lead
your flock take them to a place to where they don’t want to go. Force them to
collide with God’s majesty and mercy as revealed in the Gospel and the Bible
(Romans 1:16-17, Hebrews 4:12-13).